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Will Grey Hair Age You? The Honest Truth About Going Grey
- Embracing the Silver Lining
- May 11
- 4 min read
Updated: May 26
There’s a sentence I heard for years—sometimes whispered, sometimes shouted:
“But grey hair will age you.”
As if that’s the worst thing that could happen to a woman.
But let’s be real: I used to believe it, too.
Before I decided to ditch the dye, that fear ran deep. I was always told I looked “so young for my age,” but was it just with dyed hair?
Compliments like that can feel like currency for us women, especially in a culture that’s becoming more and more obsessed with youth.
But when I met Leon, who is 12 years younger than I, the fear got a little louder.
Not that I’m new to the age difference thing, my ex-husband was 10 years younger than me as well.
But as I have gotten older, I’ve been more concerned about those years becoming more noticeable.
I worried about how I would look beside him. Would I seem “too old” to be with him?
Would people judge me? Would HE stop seeing me the same way if I let my grey hair shine through?
Would he still be attracted to me?
Spoiler alert: he didn’t flinch.
In fact, his support helped me find the courage to do what my soul was already calling me to do. Embrace my authenticity.
Facing the Fear: Grey Hair and the “Invisible Woman” Myth
Let’s talk about what’s really going on.
The fear of grey hair isn’t just about color.
It’s about our visibility.
Our value, position, and our perceived identity in society.
So much of our conditioning tells us that as we age, especially as women, we fade.
That we lose desirability.
That our beauty has an expiration date, and it’s somewhere around the first sign of a silver hair, which is silly in itself because many women first notice a grey hair far under the age of 30, we just don’t realize it because so many women choose to hide their greys from first sight!
But here’s what I’ve learned:
Youthful energy isn’t something that you color in—it’s something you own.
It’s in your fire, your freedom, your presence. NOT your pigment.
I’m now two years into my grow-out journey, and yes—people do comment less often that I “look so young for my age.”
And yes, I AM actually two years older now than when I first started this journey—there are shifts that naturally start to happen especially around 48 to 50.
But the biggest shift isn’t my appearance—it’s the societal association that grey = old, therefore I no longer look ‘young for my age’ and old = less.
Not because grey hair magically fixed anything, because there was nothing to be ‘fixed’, but because choosing authenticity over approval set something free in me.
I stopped trying to fit into the outdated mold of what a woman “should” look like, especially the ‘for her age’ narrative, and started showing up in my full, authentic design.
And here’s the beautiful twist:
When you live authentically and unfiltered, your real energy starts shining.
Not despite your age, but BECAUSE of your lived experience, your presence, your power, and walking and owning that fully.
If You’re Wondering, “Will Grey Hair Make Me Less…?”
To the woman asking,
“Will grey hair make me less beautiful?”
“Will it make me less datable?”
“Will I lose something if I let go of dye?”
I see you.
I was you.
And my answer is this:
Grey hair will not make you less.
It will simply make you more.
More magnetic.
More rooted in self (see what I did there, ha!)
More free.
This isn’t about going grey to prove a point, but it sure can be!
The more women who embrace their natural grey hair, the faster and more normalized it will become for future women in society, and that’s a brilliant reason to say bye to the hair dye!
It’s about choosing your truth over fear.
So, if you’re standing in front of the mirror, wondering if it’s time—
The wonder is your sign.
Curiosity is your sign. This is your sign.
Your beauty and evolving self don’t need permission, but sometimes it's nice to receive it. So here you go.
Permission to let go of societal pressures and let it GROW!
And you know, your bright sparkly silver light most certainly DOES NOT need a filter (aka hair dye).
Let THEM see YOU.
Let YOU see YOU.
Grey Hair Blog
Jennifer David
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